Fall Painting and My New Workspace!

One of Behr’s 2020 colors of the year, Charasmatic

So when my son left for school to another state yesterday, I decided to repaint his room from aqua blue to this serene yellow and reclaim my workspace.

My husband and I loved this color from Behr 2020 collection called, Charasmatic. It’s a warm yellow, but not too bright. It’s perfect for doing my schoolwork or if I need to work virtually from home. His bed is still in there for when he comes back to visit, and for when I need to take a nap!

Are you doing any fall projects this year?

Summer Fahita meets Fall Soup

Welcome Fall!

Late summer into fall has to be me and my husband’s favorite time of year! The cooler weather arrives and the best holidays are coming up. Besides that, school starts and with both of us being teachers, I need to get creative with food preparation.

Usually I will make 3 or 4 meals during the week and throw in take out for chinese or pizza and a rotisserie chicken and we are covered for the week. One of my favorite ways to spice up meals is to add something leftover to something new as shown above. Soup that I made a couple of days ago was paired with a fresh fahita bringing a new meal to enjoy.

Our 2020 Family Christmas Photo!

2020 Christmas photo

It was no small task to get the five of us together in the 2 week window that we had when my 21-year old visited us from CA this summer. To prove my point, it was only because his flight was canceled (thank you, God) that he stayed an extra day and we made it happen on our back deck. Not the scenic view I was planning for but I’m grateful that we got it and will be ahead of the game come Thanksgiving time, when I plan to send out my Christmas cards.

What to do when you’ve turned into the Mother you don’t want to be

I recently read an article written by Lily Kreitinger titled I have turned into my Mother! She wrote how her six-year-old daughter began acting like her “mini-me” and not in a good way. She went on to list the six different mom types that we can become when we regretfully become our mothers but also action items so we can change who we want to be going forward.

Phantom Mom:

You may have had a Phantom Mom if you spent a lot of time in your room while she spent a lot of time in hers and got birthday cards addressed “To Whom it May Concern.” You know when relationships get past the point of no return and find quick ways to bow out when things get too close for comfort.

Action item: Find one or two people you can trust, who can provide the encouragement and support you have been trying to find.

China Doll Mom:

The second type is the China Doll Mom. This mom wants everyone to “turn their frown upside down” because she can’t deal with pain, anger or “bad feelings.” You may have had this kind of mom, if instead of friends you have “pet projects.”

Action item: Find a group of friends with whom you can be yourself. You will find that vulnerability is not scary, and that it is the courageous path for true connection.

Controlling Mom:

The Controlling Mom is very easy to spot. Mother knows best. You’d better stay here in the tower, little Rapunzel, because out there, the world will eat you alive. You may have had a controlling mom if you find yourself volunteering on every committee, juggling work, family and friends’ requests and end up each day exhausted wondering when it will be your turn.

Action item: Find out what you like. Say no to your neighbor when they ask you to babysit. Sing Let It Go at the top of your lungs.

The Trophy Mom:

The Trophy Mom will tackle the coach and pin them to the ground if she feels you have been cheated out of an opportunity to shine at the championship game. You do not dare disappoint her. Ever. How do you deal with Trophy Mom’s voice in your head? With this action item:

Action itemWrite a list of everything that you heard that is a lie. “Failure is not an option.” “Give it your all and make me proud.” “We are not quitters or losers.” Then, write a list of what you know to be true starting with “I am good enough, and I don’t have to be perfect.”

The Still-the-Boss Mom:

My mother-in-law, may she rest in peace, was one of these. She would come into my house, plan a menu for my guests, cook and serve the meal and assign seating at my table. She had a hard time treating her six children as adults. If your mom wants to be the boss, whether she is living or just a voice in your head, follow this action item:

Action item: Find a group of people who recognize your amazing talents and qualities and see you as the amazing adult you are.

The American Express Mom:

The American Express Mom, says it all. You don’t leave home without her. My mom is one of those. I’ve been married for ten years and she still does my laundry when she comes to visit. She expects a phone call every week and wants me to check in when I’m going on vacation, just to make sure I’m safe. Hello, we live 3000 miles apart. What difference does it make if I’m in Minnesota or Hawaii? To detach myself, I had to set hard boundaries for now. I am pretty sure I am banned to enter Mexico and I will soon hear a knock on the door when she sends out a SWAT team to rescue me from the people who have brainwashed me out of her power.

Action item: Set boundaries. Define specific things that you will do and will not do and the same for her. This will likely be hard, but it is worth it.

I love this article because, in the end, Lily admonishes us to try to come to a place where we can understand our mom as she did to us only what she knew how to do. We can forgive her and love her for who she is and not who we want her to be.

To learn more about this topic, read The Mom Factor by Henry Cloud and John Townsend.

Which type of mom do you most relate to?

Beef Bulgogi Meatballs from Hello Fresh

Every once in awhile I will purchase Hello Fresh’s trial offers in order to connect with my youngest son as he likes to cook. The ingredients are all premeasured and prepared for you and it’s delivered right to your door. Although it costs more money than I would like to spend, I find that’s it’s money well spent because I get to hang out with my son and do something we both enjoy. By the way, this meal was absolutely delicious. So delicious, I had it the next morning, too, for breakfast with a side of spinach.

Left overs from last night’s Hello Fresh meal (Beef Bulgogi Meatballs paired with spinach. Yum!

Pizza and Wings night!

Family Night: pizza, wings and Gin Rummy 500!

We decided to have a once a week family night “take out dinner” to spend more time with our teenage boys! Each week a different family member gets to decide where to go.

This particular night was Pizza Hut! Even though I didn’t feel like having pizza, I ordered 6 chicken wings, with a side of ranch dressing. I cut up some carrots and celery to dip the dressing in. Perfect!

Buffalo BBQ Chicken Flatbread Leftovers for Breakfast!

These were leftovers that I froze from when I made BBQ Buffalo Chicken Flatbread, a recipe inspired from Hello Fresh. I paired it with salad, fruit and a glass of Stur Black Cherry flavored water for a wholesome and satisfying meal.

The directions are easy. Buy one of those flatbreads that you find in the deli section of the grocery store. The one I used was round but you could buy the large rectangular ones too. Pre-make white meat chicken, cut into cubes (I freeze mine to easily use for recipes like this).

BBQ Buffalo Chicken Flatbread

  • Servings: 8
  • Difficulty: Easy!
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1 flatbread
Extra Virgin Olive Oil to drizzle on flatbread
2 cups cooked cubed chicken (you could also use cubed cooked pork)
BBQ sauce to coat chicken cubes
1 c shredded cheddar
1 c shredded mozzarella
Ranch Dressing (optional)

Coat the cooked chicken cubes in BBQ sauce. Drizzle Extra Virgin Olive Oil on top of the flatbread and bake at 425 for 8 minutes. Add the BBQ chicken cubes and the shredded mozzarella and cheddar on top of the flatbread with another drizzle of olive oil on top and bake an additional 5 minutes until cheese is melted. You can add ranch dressing on top or serve plain as shown in the picture.

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Sugar Free Chocolate Chips by 365Brand!

Look what I found at my local Whole Foods

I ran out of Lily’s chocolate chips and I couldn’t buy them from Amazon at this time of year because I’ve read the chips melt in the heat. So I stopped by my local Whole Foods and not only did I find generic Lily’s chocolate chips that are $2.00 cheaper than Lily’s (they’re called 365 Brand by Whole Foods) but I also found these chocolate salted caramel chocolate chips by Lily’s. I cannot wait to use them in a recipe!

Left overs!

I freeze everything. I mean whenever I make something that only I like, I freeze it in little baggies and label it with the contents for future meals . It comes so handy now that I’m taking two graduate courses this summer.

Whenever hunger strikes in the middle of reading a chapter, taking a quiz or writing a paper for school I’ll just put together one of these little meals that I pre-made and froze a few weeks before and 3 minutes in the microwave later I’m good to go.

Shown here are leftovers from eggroll in a bowl and chicken cutlets. then I added fresh fruit to balance it all out.

Do you freeze your leftovers?

Making Spring/Summer Face Masks during Corona-Virus

My sister lives in Southern CA and when the Corona Virus Pandemic forced us all to wear facemasks there were none to be found. So I made some using heavier flannel material because it was still winter-like weather in NJ.

I also sent one to my sister in CA and she said she liked it but it was “hot.” So last week I found some spring-like bedsheets that we were no longer using and got to work. I plan to send her one of the lighter-weighted face-masks this afternoon. I hope you enjoy it Diane!

Do you buy your masks or make them? I’d love to see yours!

Pattern that I used for making the facemasks